In a time where more and more people, at least in the big city worlds, are leaning toward a single life as the preferred way of co-existing, I’m, as usual, leaning in the opposite direction. I used to live alone in Denmark for more than 20 years, and having enjoyed it for a large part, I finally came to the sense that a change was needed. Not that I suddenly got sophisticated ambitions regarding my social life, not at all, but a need for a well-balanced change, to be able to share my life with someone dear, did start to emerge. I guess it is something you grow mature to, and that it happened to me late, was not a surprise, since I in all earthly aspects have always considered myself 10 years behind.
I started to pursue this new desire, and did so mainly here in Mexico. And succeed, and failed, no less than three times, before I realized that it was not guaranteed to meet the perfect match, just because you use a dating site algorithm to find her. So after we split up, my third ex and I, I decided that if anything romantic should ever be part of my life again, it would have to happen the good old-fashioned way: Boy meets girl. Somewhere in real life. Without intentions. Pure emotional attraction as we would bump into each other unexpectedly.
And it actually happened!
But not before I started to apply some of the life-transforming principles that I had taken into my life during the later years.
The understanding that we are here in this physical world on earth, as self-responsible creators, had become clear to me after having studied and listened to the talks of Esther and Jerry Hicks. I found in that clear logical explanations about the world, and in particular a precise guidance to how to make the transformations that you dream of come true.
Yes, you are right, it is not as easy to master this discipline as it perhaps sounds, but neither is chess, even though the rules are pretty simple.
Agreeing with the established science that everything is energy, that is in a continuous eternal flow into, through and out of form, the thing to hold on to is that this energy, for it to be able to manifest in the physical world as the materiel things we can sense, each have their own level of energy at which they vibrate. Everything in the universe is therefore vibrating at its own energy level. And this means literally everything, from the biggest planets to a simple thought or feeling. Yes it is all manifested energy.
You probably don’t question the existence of gravity, but there is an extension of understanding of gravity, that is called the law of attraction. Energy that vibrates at a certain level will attract more of itself. How it works, I don’t know, but there is a mechanism in the universe that makes this happen, and it works on all levels and aspects of life, meaning that this which has manifested, and is given attention to, will accumulate more of the same energy. Look around you in the world, and see if it isn’t really the case. Aggression creates more aggression, the richer gets richer, the poor gets poorer, when you have a bad day and walk into it with a negative attitude you are very likely to meet people sharing the same mood as you, and nothing can save a bad day as a kind word from a stranger or a loved one.
Accepting this premise, you’ll now understand that every thought created, will instantly start the process toward physical manifestation. Some thoughts manifest easily in a snap moment others require dedicated repetition through a longer time, and you can say that what really makes it happen or not is how strongly you feel for it to come true.
And now is probably when you’ll start arguing, and ask why everybody then doesn’t just think their way to wealth or whatever their desire is. And the answer is because they are human. Meaning that nobody, or only the most disciplined person, is able to control his thought process to a degree where these manifestations will come true spontaneously or at a predictable pace.
Thoughts pop up constantly and in a very unpredictable way. And because it is so, it is also very difficult to maintain a steady focus on one particular thought through time. The moment you think about the negation of that wish you have just launched, you start a new manifestation process that works in the exact opposite direction of that what you really want. The wish manifestation looses momentum and no progress will happen on that part.
But there is another aspect to this that affects what will manifest and what will not, because technically what the universe responds to is not so much the thought itself, but rather the vibration of energy that your thought has created. And it happens via your feelings.
Thinking a thought always gives you a certain feeling, and it is actually the vibration of that feeling that the universe responds to and it is from that vibration, that your wish will manifest.
Say, you get a feeling of good when you launch a desire for a new car. But of course, even if you possessed the most phenomenal imagination you would never be able to imagine a scenario to a 100% degree, meaning that in order to be able to have the manifestation come true, you have to accept that the universe delivers you a variation of your dream, and trust that this variation is good enough for you to experience that feeling of good when you get this car.
And this leads me back on the track to how I met this wonderful woman with whom I fell so deeply in love, because:
I knew that I had to change my way of thinking, and I had to imagine myself already in that situation that I wanted to experience. And to do that the most convincing way, I had to start feeling as if I were already in love. So I started to imagine myself in a situation, where I was living with a gorges woman, and I would imagine what we would do together that would feel nice. Specific situations but without dwelling too much on the details, because the important thing was the feeling, and not her exact expression. If she would be a brunette, a blond, a Chinese or a fake cyborg, didn’t matter. The important thing was how I would feel, when I was with this woman.
And this change of thought went on for several months, if I remember it correctly. And of course it is not something you focus on constantly, but if you do it consistently a few minutes every day, you’ll eventually see results.
And when it finally happened, it happened exactly as I had hoped it would. Spontaneously bumping into each other without me being thinking even the slightest about the subject. I was doing a guide job and looking for Coffemate with my client when she suddenly showed up in the store.
Once again I was confirmed that disciplined thoughts and feelings work if you want to make changes in your life. And when I later got to know Nancy better, I understood that I had met a woman whom I could not have imagined any better even in my wildest dream.
And it is therefore also a near disaster when I have to continue with the sad news that after the sweet moments while flying in the sky of love with her and the Black-and-white Hawk-eagles, we have now landed, and unfortunately not in the vicinity of each other.
In the concrete situation and with an explanation from the real world, I say that it simply didn’t work between us because Nancy never really shared the feelings I had for her. That is of course fair and honest, though difficult to accept, because she was, and still is, the woman of my heart.
But there is another explanation to our failure that I prefer to give more attention and credibility, and that is the fact that the moment I met Nancy, I stopped nurturing my dream about being living with a wonderful woman. I returned to the real world and started to take score of that was is. And that is why I lost her.
This is the biggest mistake that anybody actively creating changes in their lives commit: When they reach their goal, they stop wishing and imagining. The moment you start focusing on that was is in the real world, you start creating a future that will very often be based on all the negative things you observe and experience out there.
There is no need for details, but this also happened to me with Nancy, when she wasn’t as responsive to my approach as I had hoped. And from there one negativity after the other evolved into the inevitable situation, from where there was only one thing left to say: Goodbye.
It’s a lesson dearly earned, but I have to trust that when I now start to re-enter my state of deliberate and passionate imagination, I’ll soon find myself back in the fortunate company of a wonderful woman.
And if it should happen by miraculous ways, that the woman I attract, is named Nancy, she shall be more than welcome, and shall hear no complaints on my part ever ever ever ever ever ever…